For me this is a really hard one. I do love to have a good shout. I came from a big robust family where shouting is a good way of life to get yourself heard, or get attention or to make a point. Dysfunctional? Yes. Helpful? Probably not.

But in an argument, shouting in any form is a bad thing, a sign that I have lost control, lost in an argument.

I have shouted at various times and invariably I regret each and every occasion.

But so what if you have inherited the shouty gene like me? Still i will have to use it inevitably in a challenging situation. There are so many things that make us shout, so many situations where we feel that a little judicious loss of temper will get us our way.

In real live human being who have their own feelings and shouting is definitely not justified - even if they started first.

If you run over someone's foot, do apologize and not allowed to shout. If you cant get your own way, also do not shout, just ignored. Let's try to make a good day for all of them by spreading a bit of goodwill around. Perhaps no one has been kind to him/her before for a long long time. Try a different approach, do not give up but ready to help does not mean that you are a pushover.

I know, i know, there seems to have a lot of situations where shouting seems appropriate. It becomes a benchmark to stick on. Remember : "Calm people gets trusted, relied and looked up to."

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